Dear Mariella

Dear Mariella

Setting up home with a widower can be a challenge – especially if he won't put away his first wife's possessions. Mariella Frostrup advises a jealous woman to choose her battles

Mariella Frostrup 

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• The Observer, Sunday 1 January 2012
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The dilemma

 I'm living with a widower whose wife died 11 years ago. They had a daughter and his wife died three months after the child was born. My problem is with his dead wife. Although we have a son ourselves, I'm jealous of her. I feel like they had a nice marriage as he always talks about her as a most beautiful woman. He has her clothes in his wardrobe and wedding photos in his drawer. Is that normal? I feel like a second choice and that if she hadn't died he would be now with her and not me. We argue about this, but he still keeps her things.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/jan/01/mariella-frostrup-widower-first-wife